Archive for April, 2011

Dad’s funeral arrangements

Hello Everyone. Just wanted to put out an update on my dad’s funeral arrangements. The funeral will be Saturday April 16th at Farnham’s Funeral Home. 1125 W Temperance Road Temperance, MI 48182 Phone Number: (734) 847-3811. Visitation will be from 12 to 3, with the funeral at 3. I will be delivering the message so it will not be your typical funeral though I am going to preach a bit, but the heart of it is Dad’s story which is compelling in and of itself. the rest of the family is involved in the ceremony as well and it is really a DIY affair. At 4:00 we will be sharing a meal and perhaps hoisting a few in Dad’s memory at the American Legion Hall620 W Temperance Rd Temperance, MIĀ 48182. Afterwards we will be drifting back to Brenda’s. My computer is having trouble so i will not necessarily be able to be reached by facebook or email. I am leaving for the home country thursday morning and will be reachable by dad’s cel phone 734-777-0659. i cannot get messages because he took the password to the grave.

Categories: family

memorial hill

well what used to be called myrtle’s grave is taking on added significance as i prepare to sprinkle a small amount of my father’s cremated ashes there. he loved that little dog and spoke of her fondly with some of his last words. buzzed on the morphine he told me “i want to marry myrtle. so he’ll largely be buried with my mom in the erie cemetery (yes its true) but a little bit will stay here in columbia where he spent some pleasant years. Gabriel Garcia Marquez says a place doesn’t really become home until you bury your dead there. i want columbia to be home at least a little bit.

when myrtle died last year we buried her deep as you should a good and faithful companion, all things being equal. we planted greek myrtle (six of them on the grave) and they had pretty foliage and little white flowers. it died off over the winter and hadn’t really snapped back. last fall i had added 3 new and a bit more existent daylillies at the head and foot. later i put in some tulips and crocuses on the bird feeder side. nothing is blooming and while not bleak its not exactly much of a pick me up.

sarah and i had gone to menards to return tile and so i picked up everything that was flowering. i got a lobelia hanging basket for the front and moved the windchime to the backyard. i bought some larger perenials and a flat of annuals and really made the memorial area look sharp. annual wise i did violas, snap dragons, pansies, verbana, and a couple of others. I also did a good sized gerbera daisy. Perenials i did a lot of creeping phlox, some bellis, and a couple of candytuft (iberis-sempervirens). it looks sharp. i also have some other stuff in pots now, maybe i’ll get it in the ground in time in the beds along the neighbor’s privacy fence which will be the backdrop for the service. I’ve got some daffodils going on one side and some grape hyacinth on the other. the new stuff adds some flowering now to the beds which have at least greenery going.

overall its earlier then i would like, in a lot of ways but i am glad i decided to have a little bit going all the time rather than having stuff that all hits at once so i at least had something to build from. you don’t get to choose your time on these things.

Categories: dogs, family, gardening